A quick Guide on How to Deal with Strong Emotions?
At this unsettling and uncertain times, it may be really hard for most of us to adapt to the changes. This can cause a lot of worrying in some adults and children. It is natural to worry about things we cannot control. Worrying in children may be observed as frequent temper tantrums and having regressions (such as wanting to co-sleep again) and whining.
Plus, you may be finding it stressful to work from home, take care of the children, and the housework at the same time.
Identifying and talking about one’s emotions is the very start for calming down and problem-solving. To start understanding what others are feeling, children need to know about their own emotions.
What helps little children to identify their emotions?
Read and Watch Together.
Children feel more secure about talking emotions when they don’t feel intense emotions at that moment. So using stories and cartoons will help your child to talk about emotions. Start talking about what is happening in the story and how the characters are feeling.
Use Play as a Safe Ground.
For children, it is easier to play about the things that create strong emotions rather than talk. So play with your child and try to understand the recurring subjects and use play to guide your child.
Be a Model.
Talking about your emotions will help your child to talk about their emotions easily. Being a model of being respectful about differences and different perspectives will also help your little one.
Share Your Stories
It is important that your little one understands that everybody has feelings and we all feel scared, angry, jealous, etc. at some point.
What are the 4 Messages to Emphasize about Emotions?
It is okay to feel how you are feeling now.
This especially helps when the child has intense emotions such as anger, frustration, jealousy, and fear.
You can have different emotions than others about the same thing.
We don’t always have the same emotions about the same thing. You can be happy about your toy but your friend may feel jealous about the toy and it is okay to feel that way.
You can feel more than one emotion at the same time.
We may be feeling a lot of different emotions at the same time. You may be happy that it is your birthday that day but at the same time be sad that your best friend cannot come to your birthday party.
Especially when we are having strong emotions and feel uncomfortable, it is important to remind ourselves that these emotions are not permanent. We may be feeling angry now, but in time we can calm down and feel more relaxed.
Sending warm wishes to all,
Out of the Box Fun Team